I recently watched a really good episode of "Master Class" and it was about Oprah. In one segment, she spoke of "surrendering" and it stuck with me. It is so true that when you have done all that you can do regarding just about any situation, you have to surrender and let go. What will be will be. It's almost like I have to keep reminding myself of that because I have all these aspirations and goals that I work really hard toward and if I don't see results when I think I should, I think there is something wrong. So I go back to the drawing board, research, seek advisement, struggle and push on. At times it feels like I'm grinding to no avail. But on the other hand, I've noticed that with some things that I do, I get results just doing the necessary and then letting it be. It's like I didn't have to force it, it just seemingly fell into place. So maybe there is something to the whole "surrendering" thing. It's just not as easy as it seems when you want something SO bad. I know now that it is a form of faith and an important way of stress management so I am practicing surrendering more and more as a part of my life.
"There are people whose expectations are different than most of ours. These are people who have made the transition to adulthood and not lost the innocence, joy and power of childhood. They are rare but perhaps you have been fortunate enough to know one of them. These exceptional people are content as they are--where they are. They are more responsive to beauty. They are less driven by egocentric needs and more helpful and responsive to the needs of others. They are less fearful. They are creative, innovative, and playful. They are lovable and have an impish sense of humor. You may find yourself being drawn to them and perhaps thinking, "This is a wonderful human being. If we could all be like her our world would be a safe and beautiful place." Abraham Maslow calls these people "Transcenders." From Beyond Happiness. - Frank J. Kinslow